Belonging and Thriving: The Heartbeat of Kew Green

Last week we celebrated the new school year with a great picnic event out on the Green, followed by drinks with the new parents in the school. This got me thinking about the importance of belonging, and brought my mind back to the wonderful book ‘Belonging’ by Owen Eastwood, which I read last year. At Kew Green Preparatory School, we know that children learn best when they feel a deep sense of belonging. Belonging is more than simply being included – it is about being seen, valued and connected to something greater than ourselves.

In Māori culture, the concept of whakapapa captures this beautifully. Whakapapa refers to the layers of connection to family, community, ancestors, land and future generations. It is a reminder that each of us is part of a story that stretches both backwards and forwards in time. When children understand that they are part of something bigger, they develop roots and wings: the security to feel grounded, and the confidence to grow and explore.

Modern science reinforces what ancient wisdom has always known. When we feel that we belong, our brains release powerful chemicals: dopamine, which motivates us and fuels joy in learning, and oxytocin, which deepens trust and strengthens relationships. These natural responses help children feel safe, curious and ready to thrive.

At Kew Green, we are intentional about nurturing this sense of belonging. From the way we welcome each family into our community, to our emphasis on collaboration, kindness and mutual respect, every child is encouraged to know: You matter. You belong. Whether it’s cheering for one another on the sports field, working together on a creative project, or gathering as a school in assembly, we celebrate the threads that bind us together.

Belonging and thriving are not separate paths – they are inextricably linked. When children feel secure in who they are and confident in the connections around them, they flourish academically, socially and emotionally. They are more willing to take risks in their learning, more open to new ideas, and more resilient in the face of challenges.

As we look to the future, we continue to place belonging at the centre of our vision. In doing so, we honour the principle of whakapapa, embrace the science of human connection, and nurture a community where every child can thrive – not just for themselves, but as part of something bigger.